I recently had to forgive someone who clearly wasn’t sorry.
A couple of years ago, I would have handled the situation differently. Sure, it may have felt great to confront someone to their face, get mad, and make them look like an idiot… but that doesn’t get you anywhere. That type of reaction doesn’t make the situation better, it solves nothing, and could just make you look like a bigger idiot in the end.
I’ve always had trust issues. However, I have been getting better at letting the past stay in the past – but it still stings when someone close to you, someone you trust, betrays you. I recently had a good friend, who I would have done anything for, betray me. When it comes to my friends, I’m very loyal, so I wasn’t sure how to handle the situation. I was so caught off guard that it took me a good week and a half to decide what to do. Of course, there are always a few ways of handling these types of things; some good, and some bad. When I found out, my blood was boiling and my anxiety was through the roof. I wanted to punch somebody, and yet a part of me wanted to cry.
I knew this person wasn’t sorry, and had a history of doing things like this. I initially ignored what others told me about this person, and decided to give her the benefit of the doubt; but sometimes things don’t play out as planned. So what did I do? I decided to hand my problem over to God. I decided to not let that person bring me down to their level, and I decided to let everything go. In the back of my mind, I couldn’t believe this was how I decided to handle things; this isn’t my nature, but I believed this was the least stressful, and more mature way of going about it. This individual most likely has issues of their own and the only thing I can do is pray for them… but in the end, I can forgive them. I have forgiven them.
SO, how do I move on from the situation? I trust that God will handle it and maybe take that person under his wing and give them guidance to live a less hateful and deconstructive life. Sure, I was hurt (I’m only human), so my first instinct was to hurt them back – but I am thankful that I sat on the situation before reacting. Remember, the first reaction is hardly ever the right one, especially when it’s sprouted out of adrenaline. Moving forward, if (and when) I’m put in a situation where this person will be there, I’ll continue to be myself and trust that God has handled it.
The worst part of betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.
When you are betrayed, how do you handle the situation?