The cool thing about life, your life, is that you are the captain. You can control what you do, choose, or want. Sometimes you can’t control everything, but you can certainly make decisions that may affect the outcome. I’m always trying to do things better, say things better, and live a healthier life (mentally & physically.) We all face times that are hard, so it’s important to come up with a game plan for change. I don’t believe in giving up, or settling for mediocre. I believe in finding what makes you the happiest and your purpose.
I wanted to share some things I’ve been doing, changing, and working towards lately! I hope this inspires you to work on things you’ve wanted to change as well. No change is too small to make a world of impact. It’s never too late to follow your dreams.
Being optimistic is the way to be.
It’s easy to let things get to you, or feel upset about something that didn’t go your way. It’s also easy to just let things be, know it happened for a reason, and be willing to accept the change. If you are grateful for the moment, and what you already have, you’ll find that it’s easier to be happy for what will come, or what might not. Living in the current moment is most important. If you’re constantly regretting the past, dwelling on things, or being negative, it’ll start to take a toll on you. It’s OK to feel sad, but it’s also OK to be happy. Turn the little things into big things, make each moment one to remember, and laugh as much as possible. Try not to spend your time talking negatively about others or caring what people think of you! As long as you are living YOUR best life, none of that matters. Surround yourself with optimistic people, follow positive posts on social media, and go out of your way to spread that happiness. I promise it’s contagious. I’ve been trying to make all moments my favorite moments. If something is bothering me, I turn it around fast. Coping with positivity helps me with anxiety. You also have to be open to the new. Don’t let a past experience fog your future judgment.
I won’t be able to travel a lot next year, so I have planned a lot of upcoming trips! I love to explore, take photos, try different foods, and experience new places. If you’re ever feeling stuck in a rut, book a trip, and go! It’s the best way to reset. I’m off to California early September! Putting myself in new environments always prepares me for future challenges. I’m also looking forward to seeing family, spending time with friends, and making memories that’ll last forever.
I’ve been big on recycling.
I admit I used to just throw things out and not care where they ended up. Now, I find myself taking things from restaurants if I know they’ll end up in the wrong bin. I have my boyfriend re-using and recycling now too. There is definitely room for improvements, but I plan on being better and doing better. It makes me happy that my recycling bin is actually more full than my trash can. I ordered a reusable to-go coffee cup today (thanks to a reader’s comment) and will try to take it with me whenever possible. But, there is no excuse for any plastic, cardboard, paper, or glass in my trash can! EVER.
This is one I NEVER thought I would ever do. BLACK COFFEE.
On Monday, I decided to switch to black coffee, and I haven’t looked back. It’s weird to me that I enjoy the taste without all the cream. The first day, I was like “I’ll get through it’, but now I genuinely enjoy it. I love the craft of coffee and a good tasting bean. It was kind of ridiculous that I was masking it with cream. Plus, now it’s calorie and fat-free. Black coffee is easier, and I’m so ready for this new coffee adventure 😉
Stress will age you, and bring on a ton of unwanted health conditions. I’ve been practicing stress-free moments. If I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’ll take some deep breaths and recoup. If I feel like I need a break, I’ll take it. We can be a little hard on ourselves sometimes, and that’s not a healthy way to live. Taking the time just to walk away, relax, and ground yourself can relieve a lot of stress. Finding ways to de-stress is important. Stress can be caused from overworking, or a lack of sleep. I’ve been making sure to get 7-8 hours of sleep each night. I have also learned to say “no.” If I’m exhausted, a social event is not my cup of tea. In fact, a cup of tea is a better idea. It’s OK to be an introvert now and then. Actually, it’s OK to be an introvert, period. Having time to myself to drink tea, read a book, or go on a long walk is a great way to de-stress and ground myself. I’ve been doing a lot of that lately, and I’ve figured out a lot during those times. Just slow down a bit. I know it’s hard to fight FOMO (especially with social media) but it’s better if you do. Don’t try to keep up with others, just focus on you. It’s not worth it in the long run. I’m not sure if this topic fits in the category, but I’d really like to start going back to church consistently again. I never lost faith, but I put my relaxing Sundays before God, and I’d like to start going again. I found a new church near my house that I look forward to attending on Sundays.
You know what else stresses me out? Stuff. Clutter. Messes.
I’ve been doing so well on minimalizing. I could never be a full out minimalist. I love my fall candles and Christmas decorations too much, but I have worked on getting rid of things I don’t use, or that don’t play a role in my life. Every Friday, I do deep cleans. This is when I vacuum, mop, wash clothes, scrub counters, wipe windows, dust, and the list goes on. It literally takes me three hours. Having a clean house makes me feel like I have things under control. My mom always says “a happy house is a clean house,” and she’s right. When I’m shopping, I think twice about buying something. I have been getting rid of a lot of clothes as well. That situation is a bit ridiculous.
I stopped weighing myself.
You guys know this already. I wrote an entire post all about it! I highly recommend reading it, as well as the comments. So much great advice from readers. Click here to read. It’s been almost a month since I’ve stepped on a scale. I’m telling you, I’ve been a different person without that number over my head. My boyfriend has tossed out the scales. I have no idea what he did with them, or if they are still in one piece or not. I just know, they are gone. I don’t care what I weigh, I don’t want to know, it doesn’t define me, and I don’t miss it. I lift a lot of weights, workout daily, and that scale’s opinion is worthless. This is probably one of the most important on the list.
Playtime isn’t just for kids. One of my favorite things to do is play sports. I love volleyball, swimming, basketball, softball, golf, tennis, and throwing the football. It’s one of my favorite ways to be active. I’ve decided to workout at the gym four times a week instead of six days a week. On the off days, I’ll play a sport. Sports are fun, and fitness should be fun! So, I’ve been playing more! I’ve been shooting more hoops, swinging the club, and playing so much tennis! Walking my dogs is also my form of “play.” I do it three times a day, and wouldn’t trade it for anything! This is the first week, I’ve taken days off, and I feel like this needs to be a permanent thing. I’ve had “active” rest days.
You guys may/may not have noticed. I used to dine out all the time. I used to go to a restaurant at least twice a week and sometimes twice a day! I’ve been making dining out a special occasion thing. (picking up salads at Chopt or from the Whole Food’s hot bar doesn’t count). I’ve been eating at home a lot more! When I go out to dinner, it’s because of a birthday, when I’m out of town or celebrating something special. Dining out is fun, but it’s also easy to take advantage of! You appreciate it more when it’s a rare event. I know I’ll be dining out more because of all the upcoming travels, but when I can avoid it, I will!
When I was a little girl, my mom had to bribe and beg me to get me to come inside. I wouldn’t spend all morning, afternoon, and evening playing in the backyard. Things haven’t changed. I love being outside. It’s been hard the past couple of months because of the high temperatures and humidity, but that’ll end soon, and I’ll be back to that outdoor life. I have some fun hikes planned, camping, and outdoor adventures ahead. Connecting with the earth is another great way to keep you grounded and stress-free. I won’t be jumping out of airplanes anytime soon, but fun adventure awaits!
Thinking about the future can be stressful. To me, it’s exciting. Who knows what it will hold? But, I know what I want it to hold. In two and a half years, it’ll mark my tenth year as a blogger. It’s funny because when I started blogging, I had no idea the world was going to follow. I was doing it for myself. I didn’t even have a Facebook account at the time. When my then boyfriend found my blog (never told him I had one) he was quick to tell me to go public with it and monetize it. I had no idea what I was doing! So many people connected with my struggles, and all of the people who let themselves in, saved my life. I will forever be grateful for the ones who opened up my eyes and showed me what life was all about. I was just a baby when I started, and I feel like I’ve been doing this forever. But, was blogging something I wanted to do? Or was it something I chose to do because it became a success? I don’t know. I do know that I love it and that I love everything it’s given me, including the readers that I get to connect with every day. But what if there is something else that I was meant to do? I’ll never know if I don’t give something else a chance. So next year, I’ll be going back to school. I took some time off, but I have a year and half left to finish before receiving my degree for something I chose to do before blogging. I am trading online courses for on campus ones. And don’t worry. I don’t plan on quitting the blog, going cold from social media, or changing. I’ll always blog, but it may be once a week, or it may be about what I wore to work and ate for lunch, instead of my afternoon workout, or coffee choice. I just feel like I’m missing out on something, and it’s time I work towards it. I know I’m ready at this point in my life, and I’m excited for the adventure. And don’t worry guys, that’s in a couple years! You still get me full force for a while 😉 I see a lot of people quit their jobs to become full-time bloggers, but I really don’t recommend it. I think the blogging world is fun, but there is so much more to it.
Questions for you?
1. What can you do to better your life?
2. Have you ever wanted a career change?
3. What have you done lately that has made you feel better?