Life always has room for improvements. It has room for positivity, happy people, love, faith, and greatness. What it doesn’t have room for is negative people, anxiety, toxicity, failure, or stumps. Once you get rid of all the bad things in life, you’ll be able to make more room for the good things.Life goes by quick. It flies by so fast that we can hardly see it or hold onto it. Soon, we’re left wondering when and where it went. Our time on earth is short and that time should never be taken for granted. We should live every moment as if it was our last and quit wasting our days with negativity.
Have you ever found yourself surrounded by people who make you feel bad or are constantly bringing negativity into your life? Why do we even bother being around those people? It’s in our hands to remove ourselves from the situation. Wouldn’t you rather be doing something that lifts you up? If a person can’t contribute anything good to your life, don’t waste your time. Don’t try to fix them, move on with your own life and better yourself.
I want nothing more in life than happiness. I’ve struggled with anxiety my entire life and instead or relying on medicine, I rely on positive energy. It’s hard to find positive energy if you haven’t made room for it yet. Sometimes I get caught up in being upset or I find myself surrounded by negative people. My problem is that I’m constantly trying to give people the benefit of the doubt and it’s been my worst enemy. You can’t fix anyone but yourself. Excuses only show a sign of weakness. Your happiness, who you surround yourself by, and your path is all up to you. You hold the key to your future and it’s important to use it wisely.
Since I have my life in my hands and the power to make my own decisions, I’ve decided to start doing monthly evaluations on my life followed by detoxes. It’s time to get rid of the negative things and make more room for the positive.
I want to surround myself by people who make me laugh, who build me up, who support my dreams, who share my beliefs, who inspire me, who motivate me, and happy people. I also want to be the person than can contribute positivity so someone else’s life. I’m ready to move forward and be the best person I can be.
SIX THINGS I WILL FIX THIS MONTH:
1. Say goodbye to negative people.
2. Continue to follow my dreams.
3. Smile more.
4. Compliment myself, compliment my friends, and compliment strangers.
5. Reward myself for completing goals.
6. Be nice to negative people (its contagious)
Chelsea says
I love this post! I also have problems with anxiety and really appreciate your natural outlook on how to work through that. I don’t want to ever become reliant on medication (or alcohol, food, illegal drugs, etc.) to cope with that. I think having a positive outlook can really change how you feel on the inside and love that you share this perspective. Praying that you continue to find happiness!
Jenn says
I hear ya on this one girl! I have had a particular friend who I was close with end up making everything a competition and kid of mimicked my life and my lifestyle choices. Making weight, exercise, eating and even just hobbies a competition and all of a sudden taking a liking to my life and making it seem like it was theirs all along. After trying to express my personal struggles with eating and exercising and how competing is not healthy for me, they continued to do so and I knew then that I had to let them go. The mutual group of friends we had thought (and probably still think) that I just dropped them all behind, but they don’t understand. I cannot be around that and I don’t think I will ever explain that to them, just because they have all become so close and I wouldn’t want to ruin their friendships. I have a fantastic group of friends who do not bring me down and I am one hell of a happy lady being able to be myself and have happy, positive people surround me.
People will always try to bring you down. Being able to rid your life of those individuals is a milestone itself and regardless of who understands and who doesn’t, it is a must. You cant make others happy if you cant make yourself happy 😉
Lacey @ Runs and Roses says
This is so true! You always have the power to change your life, the people who affect you and the positivity that surrounds you!
I recently just wrote a similar post on how to increase your self-worth with a lot of the same Ideas that you touched on here as I think it’s so important to not only be healthy physically but mentally as well!
Taylor says
I really appreciate this post! These were also goals I had for the new year. I have followed your blog for many years now.
Thank you for posting this
Taylor
Linda @ TheFitty says
I couldn’t relate to this post more. There are so many negative people in my life, they suck the energy right out of me and I’m tired of tolerating them. Luckily, I’ll be moving to a new place with new people and I simply can’t wait to start new and fresh with my life.
Emily says
Love this! Sounds like a reflection of my own New Year’s resolutions. Best of luck! I know it is already only day five of the new year and my positive outlook on life, but so far so good! I already feel happier and more in control of my dreams and my life.
Chelsea Huckabay says
I love love love it. Hashtag anxiety probz all the time 🙁 I do take medicine for my anxiety and my OCD, but it’s not for everybody. I’ve tried everything under the sun, but I also journal, work out, eat well, and I like to watch positive people on YouTube (and read your blog of course TL!) As always, keep your head up and keep doing good. Your twenties are seriously the hardest. I’m 28 (almost 29) and my life has changed so much in the past 10-ish years. I feel like I learned how to be myself and how to be myself in a world full of people wanting me to be someone else, and it’s really REALLY hard to do that. I bet it’s especially hard to do that online in front of a bunch of people. Keep doing your best <3 Love to you and to everyone else <3
Jess says
I’m going through the same type of self change at this time. I agree with you life is too short for negativity in our lives. I support you in you journey thank you for continuing to inspire mine
Nicola says
I suffer with anxiety quite badly too. I didn’t realise it was anxiety at first, I thought everyone was as miserable as me! I realised what it was (with help) and soon found positive ways to influence it without drugs. I’m so glad you have too!
I’m starting my January detox with a great vegan recipe. You should check it out: http://www.bit.ly/sweetpotatoandlentilsalad
Healthy food, healthy mind 🙂
Amanda says
I completely agree with everything that you mentioned here. The only way to make progress and to continue to live a happy, healthy life, is to let go of the people who are holding you back. These people, unfortunately, bring us down, and it’s time to face them with the fact that they are not healthy for us! 🙂 Hang in there, buttercup! WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU, WE ARE A STRONG COMMUNITY AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE PROUD OF YOU 🙂
Kristin C says
Good post.
I struggle with anxiety too. I do take medication, but I want to always rely more on God than anything/anyone else.
As far as people go, my problem is more with worrying about what everyone thinks, or worrying that Ive made someone angry.
Im definitely working on that.
And I definitely agree with your last goal especially. There will always be negative people, but they are negative for a reason. They NEED love and kindness 🙂
Adding you and your goals to my prayer list 🙂
Jenny says
I loved this post! Tara, I have to admit I’ve regretted a million times that I have believed all the bad things jealous people said about you (without knowing you personally) when I was an exchange student in 08-09 and went to the same school as you, afterwards I have realized those girls were just jealous because you left all the crap behind, found better friends and moved out of that town! Life is too short for being negative and now, 6 years later, I hope you can be proud of yourself and what you have achieved, you’re like the only one who actually moved on in life 🙂
Teresa says
I’ve been reading your blog for years now and I must say this could actually be my favourite post! Positivity can change everything! 🙂
Mallori says
AMEN!!!!! Especially to “If a person can’t contribute anything good to your life, don’t waste your time. Don’t try to fix them, move on with your own life and better yourself.” I cannot tell you how many times I have tried to “fixed” other people. WHAT a waste of time, especially to someone who doesn’t fulfill any thing for MY life. Thank you so much for this post. I really think my problem with trying to “fix” people stemmed from never being able to “fix” my dad and his problems, I wasted 22 years doing that, and I should no longer do that for other people. Thank you again.
Anonymous says
Tara, I loved this post and agree with the above commenters that it’s probably my favorite post you’ve written. I very much relate. I have struggled with anxiety and don’t feel medication is for me. When I learned about how to live my live with a positive attitude (not an easy change to make) I found my anxiety lessen, so I get what you’re saying.
For me, it’s that I’m just emotional about everything, which is both bad and good. If I make those emotions positive rather than negative, I’m much calmer and easy to be around.
You also make a really great point about detoxing from negative people- I find that I pick up energy from these people who are constant drags and it makes me mentally and physically exhausted, so your post was good food for thought.
Alissa says
YES. Love this post and your outlook on life…it’s one I’m trying very hard to cultivate. In fact, I even took a positive psychology class online, and hope to incorporate it in future work, once I finish grad school. Thanks, as usual, for the words of inspiration.
Lindsay says
I, too, have the same problem where I constantly give people the benefit of the doubt or more chances than what I should, only to get hurt and/or get walked on in the end. No more. Life is far too short to be around people that aren’t like-minded or positive.
Laura says
I love this list of positive goals. A book I found really helpful when it comes to struggles with anxiety was on mindfulness by a woman named Micki Fine I’d recommend checking out. I’ve been a long time reader of your blog and it’s really come a very long way. You should be proud of that!!
Jen says
Love this! I hope that you continue to spread your awesomeness!